Your student is coming home for the holidays, and they have joined a fraternity/ sorority.  You are confused on what this look like. We are here to provide you with some tips that will help you with conversations around this topic with your student.

The following is a list of suggestions that may help you with easing your student’s transition into fraternity/sorority membership.

• Be happy and supportive with your student’s choice to join a fraternity or sorority and the organization that he/she/their chooses.
• It is perfectly fine to ask questions to learn more information about the fraternity or sorority. I am sure students will be eager to talk.
• Ask them about their experience and about the values of the organization that they have decided to join.
• Remember that this is your student’s choice, and he/she/there should choose the chapter that feels right, regardless of legacies or family history.
• If you have a question about fraternity or sorority life, go to the source and ask the staff within the Office of Student Engagement. We want you to have the best information possible. Our staff can be contacted at 417-836-4891.
• Know the names and phone numbers of the chapter president, new member educator, big brother/big sister and the chapter advisor.
• Ask for details about the financial aspects of membership. Each chapter governs its finances individually. If you are paying, you deserve to know. Many one-time fees are paid in the first semester, so expect the first semester to be the most expensive.
• Initiation is an important time for the new members. Be supportive and respectful of your student during this time. New member programs can range from one day to a full semester. However, most programs are six to eight weeks. Initiation dates are public to the new members, so please ask your student when initiation will occur.
• Talk with your student! Phone calls, e-mails, letters and care packages are always appreciated.
• Expect to see new T-shirts, photos and other Greek paraphernalia.
• Encourage your student to be a part of the College community and take advantage of our numerous resources.

Thank you in advance for your continued support. Know that we are happy to help and are committed to providing our students and their families with the best holistic learning experience possible.

(submitted by LaShatá  M. Grayson, Assistant Director of Involvement, Office of Student Engagement)