A Bear's Life: Student Stories

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Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

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When I was in middle school in Saudi Arabia, I decided to become a lawyer. By 12th grade, I planned to study law in the U.S., only to learn that it required a bachelor’s degree first. Since many pre-law students chose political science, I did the same—despite having no background in American politics.

In class, I felt out of place. My classmates confidently discussed political theories and global affairs, while I struggled to keep up. I often wondered, “Did I get here by luck?” or “What if they realize I don’t know as much as they do?” These thoughts held me back, making me hesitant to speak in discussions.
What I didn’t realize at the time was that I was experiencing imposter syndrome—the feeling that I wasn’t as capable as others believed, despite my achievements.

What Is Imposter Syndrome?

Imposter syndrome is that persistent voice in your head telling you that you’re a fraud, that your success is just luck, and that sooner or later, people will “find out” you’re not as smart or talented as they think. Studies show that nearly 70% of people experience it at some point, especially in competitive academic or professional environments.

How It Showed Up in My Life

As a political science student, my imposter syndrome often flared up in these ways:
  • Comparing myself to classmates who seemed to grasp concepts faster.
  • Downplaying my accomplishments—even when I got good grades, I told myself it was just because the professor was lenient.
  • Avoiding participation in class because I feared saying something “unintelligent.”
  • Over-preparing for presentations to the point of exhaustion, just to avoid being “exposed.”
I remember once staying up all night rewriting a paper because I was convinced my first draft wasn’t “good enough,” even though my professor had praised my previous work. That’s when I realized: I wasn’t struggling with my abilities—I was struggling with my mindset.

How I Started Overcoming It

  1. Recognizing the Pattern
    • I began journaling my thoughts and noticed a trend: every time I succeeded, I dismissed it. Seeing this in writing helped me challenge those thoughts.
  2. Talking About It
    • When I opened up to friends, I was shocked to learn that many of them felt the same way—even the ones I thought were “naturally brilliant.”
  3. Reframing My Thoughts
    • Instead of “I don’t belong here,” I shifted to “I earned my place, and I’m still learning.”
    • I started keeping a “win log” where I recorded small victories—like contributing in class or receiving positive feedback.
  4. Embracing Imperfection
    • I accepted that not knowing everything was normal. Political science is vast—no one has all the answers!
  5. Seeking Mentorship
    • Talking to professors and older students helped me see that even experts once felt unsure. Their advice? “Confidence isn’t about knowing everything—it’s about being willing to learn.”

Tips to Combat Imposter Syndrome

If you’ve ever felt like an imposter, here’s what helped me—and might help you too:

  • Normalize the feeling—most high achievers experience it at some point.
  • Focus on progress, not perfection—growth matters more than flawless performance.
  • Celebrate small wins—keep a journal of achievements to remind yourself of your capabilities.
  • Talk about it—you’ll realize you’re not alone.
  • Ask for feedback—sometimes, an outside perspective can silence your inner critic.

Final Thoughts

Imposter syndrome doesn’t disappear overnight, but it does get quieter. Now, when I feel that familiar doubt creeping in, I remind myself: I am here because I worked for it. My perspective matters. And I don’t have to be perfect to belong.
If you’re struggling with these feelings, know that you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not a fraud. You’ve earned your place. Keep going.

Need support?

Remember, MSU’s Counseling Center is a great resource—you get 8 free sessions every semester to talk through anything on your mind. You can also reach out to CAST for student academic assistance—sometimes, a little guidance goes a long way. Plus, your peer mentors and coaches have likely been where you are and can offer real, relatable advice.

~Yomna
(Bio: I’m Yomna Awad, a grad student in my final semester of Project Management (with a Conflict Resolution certificate!). Fun fact: My birthday is March 20th—which also happens to be the International Day of Happiness… so yes, I take the “treat yourself” mentality very seriously.)

References

Clance, P. R. (1985). The impostor phenomenon: Overcoming the fear that haunts your success. Peachtree Publishers.

Hibberd, J. (2019). The imposter cure: How to stop feeling like a fraud and escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome. Vermilion.

Mann, S. (2019). Why do I feel like an imposter? How to understand and cope with imposter syndrome. Watkins Media.

Parkman, A. (2016). The impostor phenomenon in higher education: Incidence and impact. Journal of Higher Education Theory and Practice, 16(1), 51–60.

Vergauwe, J., Wille, B., Feys, M., De Fruyt, F., & Anseel, F. (2015). Fear of being exposed: The trait-relatedness of the impostor phenomenon and its relevance in the work context. Journal of Business and Psychology, 30(3), 565–581.

Young, V. (2011). The secret thoughts of successful women: Why capable people suffer from the impostor syndrome and how to thrive in spite of it. Crown Business.







Navigating the End of the Semester Stress (Spring 2025, Week 13)

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Can you believe the end of the year is just around the corner? It’s crazy how quickly time flies! As we approach the finish line, it’s normal to feel the pressure of juggling various responsibilities, whether it’s academics or your social life. Remember, it’s okay to feel stressed—just take a deep breath and tackle one day at a time. This blog is here to help ease your stress and offer practical tips for finishing the semester strong.

Personal Experience: 

With the end of the semester approaching, I am preparing myself for graduation! This semester feels bittersweet as I balance finishing my current academic work while also gearing up for the next chapter. I’m thrilled to share that I’ll be continuing my academic journey by pursuing a master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. However, with all these changes on the horizon, my mind has been racing, and my planner is working overtime.

I’m someone who thrives on structure, so I make it a point to schedule time for everything—from workouts to homework. Having a clear plan for the week helps me stay organized and focused. I also make sure to prioritize my involvement in campus organizations, keeping track of their events in my calendar as well.

I tend to have a ‘what’s next?’ mentality, which can sometimes feel overwhelming. That’s why I also take time to appreciate the present moment and enjoy time with my friends. While staying on top of my studies is a priority, I make sure to cherish the relationships I’ve built along the way.

Resources: 

At Missouri State University, there are a variety of resources available to support your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. From Magers Health and Wellness Center to the Bear CLAW and Bear Pantry, there are many services designed to assist students in different aspects of life. These are just a few of the many resources available to help you thrive during your time here.

Your professors are another valuable resource. If you’re struggling with a course, don’t hesitate to reach out to them. You can schedule a meeting or attend their office hours for additional support. They are committed to helping you succeed academically and are here to guide you every step of the way.

Takeaways 

No matter what, be sure to reach out if you are struggling or feeling the stress of the end of the semester. The Center for Academic Success and Transition is a great place to help support students and their overall success. Please consider meeting with a success coach or peer mentor to help alleviate or lessen your stress. Although this can be a stressful time, it’s also an opportunity to create lasting memories. Let the end of the semester be a time to celebrate your accomplishments and appreciate the people around you. Remember, you’re one step closer to reaching your academic goals!

~Melyssa  

(Bio: My name is Melyssa Hernandez, and I am a senior studying psychology. Fun fact: I am an out-of-state student from Chicago, Illinois)



Taking Care of Yourself During the Winter Months

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Please enjoy this guest post from Success Coach, Yomna!

When I moved to the U.S. in 2019 from Saudi Arabia, I was beyond excited for winter. Coming from a place where summer dominates most of the year and winter barely lasts a month, I thought I was escaping the relentless heat for a season I would love. I couldn’t wait to experience snow for the first time!

At first, I did love it. Seeing the world turn white was magical. But soon, that excitement faded. I started feeling unmotivated, sluggish, and constantly tired. Getting out of my dorm felt like a chore, and going to class became more challenging. I found myself sleeping more, eating more, and eventually gaining weight. At the time, I had no idea what was happening—I just assumed it was because I came from a hot country and wasn’t used to the cold.

Later, I learned that what I was experiencing had a name: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Back in Saudi, we never really had to deal with seasonal changes affecting our moods, so this was completely new to me. I started researching and realized I wasn’t alone—according to the American Psychiatric Association, 38% of Americans report a decline in mood during winter.

What is Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)?

SAD is a type of depression that occurs seasonally, usually in winter. Common symptoms include:
  • Fatigue and low energy
  • Mood swings, sadness, and feelings of hopelessness
  • Changes in sleep patterns (oversleeping or insomnia)
  • Increased appetite and weight gain
  • Social withdrawal and irritability

When I read about it, I felt like every symptom applied to me! But the good news? I learned how to manage it—and over the years, I found ways to not just survive winter but actually enjoy it.

How I Overcame It

After nearly six years in the U.S., I’ve found that embracing the little things about winter really helps me get through the season. For me, cozy coffee shops have become a go-to spot for studying because the warm, inviting atmosphere helps me stay productive. I’ve also developed a love for winter photography—I can spend hours watching squirrels play in the snow or snapping pictures of snow-covered trees from my window. And of course, I can’t resist wearing cute, comfy sweaters; they just make me feel good.

I’ve also learned to enjoy the fun side of winter—whether it’s building a snowman, having a snowball fight with friends, or just sipping hot cocoa by the window. Lastly, I’ve been more mindful of my eating habits during winter. Overeating always made me feel sluggish, so I now focus on balanced meals and sipping on herbal teas, which help me stay relaxed and energized. It’s all about finding the little joys in the season to keep my spirits up.

Tips to Beat the Winter Blues

If you’re struggling with winter, here are some tips that helped me:
  1. Stay Active
    • It’s tempting to hibernate, but movement is key! Try indoor workouts, yoga, or even a brisk walk to stay energized.
    • If you go to the gym, stick to a routine to keep yourself motivated.
  2. Eat Well
    • Warm, nourishing meals like soups and roasted vegetables can boost your mood.
    • Stay hydrated! We often forget to drink enough water in winter.
  3. Take Care of Your Skin
    • Cold air dries out your skin, so use a good moisturizer.
    • Don’t skip sunscreen—UV rays still affect your skin in winter.
  4. Prioritize Mental Health
    • Get as much natural light as possible, or try a light therapy lamp (there’s one in Magers with a massage chair—definitely worth checking out!).
    • Practice mindfulness, journaling, or talk to a friend when you’re feeling down.
  5. Dress for the Weather
    • Layer up to stay warm—invest in good gloves, a scarf, and waterproof shoes.
  6. Stay Social and Connected
    • It’s easy to isolate yourself in winter, but social interactions can really boost your mood.
    • Join campus events, study with friends, or even set up virtual hangouts to stay connected.

Winter can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be miserable. Finding small things to enjoy—whether it’s a warm drink, a fun activity, or even just a cozy blanket—can make all the difference. If you’re struggling, know that you’re not alone, and there are ways to make winter more bearable (and even enjoyable!). If you think you’re experiencing SAD and feel like they’re affecting your academics, please reach out to the Center for Academic Success and Transition (CAST) office to meet with a success coach or peer mentor. They can provide support, guidance, and helpful resources to get you back on track! MSU’s Counseling Center is also here to support you and your well-being.

Tip from the CAST office: This blog from a previous peer mentor also discusses seasonal depression.

~Yomna

(Bio: My name is Yomna Awad, and I am in my last semester pursuing a master’s degree in Project Management with a certificate in Conflict and Dispute Resolution. Fun fact: I do CrossFit and I absolutely love it!)

References

Magnusson, A., & Boivin, D. (2003). Seasonal affective disorder: an overview. Chronobiology international, 20(2), 189-207.

Nix, B. (2022, December 19). Nearly 4 in 10 Americans experience declining mood in winter, Apa Poll finds. Louis A. Faillace, MD, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences.

Senior Year Perspective  (Fall 2024, Week 3)

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Welcome back to campus, Missouri State Bears! School is back in session for the Fall 2024 semester and I am so excited to be writing blogs once again. This year is extra special as I am a senior. I wanted to take the time to reflect on my past years at Missouri State and set the tone for the year ahead. As you read I encourage you to reflect on your own school year ahead. 

 

My Time at Missouri State

I started at Missouri State University in the Fall of 2021 and I have loved every second of it since then. I was quick to get involved in fraternity and sorority life, campus ministries, and an organization that aligned with my academic interests. I chose MSU because of the community and I’ve stayed for the same reason. There is a sense of belonging and a knowing that I am welcome anywhere on campus that provides a sense of home. 

Every year has looked different depending on the classes I’ve taken, those I’ve lived with, the leadership positions that I’ve held, and the people I’ve met along the way. My best memories over the years are with the people I’ve met through my involvement on campus and the experiences I have had are all thanks to the university. It excites me to think about all the ways students are bound to fall in love with MSU in the months ahead. I hope that I can help first-year students on campus feel the same way. 

 

Going into Senior Year

I am so fortunate to be going into my last year with a community stronger than one I’ve ever known before. The support and guidance that I have found have set me up for a great year ahead as I navigate what is next after graduation. The Center for Academic Success and Transition provides this exact avenue of resources and I recommend all students utilize it. Serving as a Peer Mentor has allowed me to connect with students all across campus to help them create their own Missouri Statement just as I did. 

This year I am making the most of every class, campus event, leadership position, and other opportunities that come along. My advice to those who are just starting their college journey is to find people who will celebrate with you, support you, hold you accountable, and adventure with you. Your time in college will be over before you know it but the memories will last a lifetime. Wishing everyone a great school year!

 

~Aubrey

(Bio: My name is Aubrey Hardy, and I am a senior studying special needs education. Fun fact: I’ve read over 15 books this year!)

Reflecting on the School Year (Spring 2024, Week 15)

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Hello again, Bears! I am having such a hard time believing that the end of the semester is so close. With that, I’ve found I’ve spent quite a bit of time reflecting on what this semester and past semesters have brought me, as well as the growth that I feel has taken place for me throughout my college journey. While I don’t graduate until later this year, this semester’s conclusion does bring some big life changes to me, and when things are changing in your life, I think it’s important to find moments to be present and think about—well, all sorts of things. I thought that I would use my post for this week, and my last post for this semester, to prompt you to do the same, especially if you are like me and have some big changes coming in your life with the conclusion of this academic year.  

Thinking About Opportunities

One thing I catch myself thinking about rather frequently is how much (or how little) I take advantage of opportunities presented to me, how often I seek opportunities, and whether or not I regret pursuing an opportunity or choosing not to pursue a specific one. I try not to get too wrapped up in decisions of the past, since, whether I may regret something or not, the past cannot be changed, but I also believe that there is some merit in looking back on those instances. It’s especially important to think about past opportunities just so you can be grateful for them. Gratitude is infinitely valuable, and can be quite the motivator when things are changing or circumstances are tough. Reflecting on different opportunities you may or may not have had can also help you determine what you want to pursue in the future.  

One opportunity that I am grateful I took this year was to review submissions for Moon City Review, the literary journal run by Moon City Press. Being a student reviewer has helped me become a better writer and connect more with Creative Writing faculty. By learning that I enjoy the behind-the-scenes of publishing, I now know that’s something I can pursue later, whether academically or in a career.  

Thinking About Growth

Even when my life isn’t particularly exciting, I find it beneficial to sit back occasionally and reflect on how I have grown throughout college and the past few years of my life in general. There’s a reason why college is considered one of the most revolutionary experiences people can have in their lives—it is very much a time of growth and inner development. 

There are countless ways in which I feel I’ve grown throughout my college journey. College has helped me figure out who I am, as well as learn about my values, moral compass, and strengths and weaknesses. I’ve also learned about my hobbies, and what I will find fulfilling in a future career. Consider spending some time thinking about the ways that you have grown, whether this has been your first or fourth year in college. Doing so helps me retain gratitude for how far I’ve come, as well as a sense of pride in who I am now.  

Thinking About the Future

In the same way that I try not to dwell too much on the past, I try not to think too much about the future, since, very much to my own remorse, I cannot predict it. However, in the same manner that I think reminiscing on the past is beneficial for the sake of gratitude, thinking about the future in some regard can be good solely for the sake of building excitement. Even though change can be intimidating, it helps me to think about all of the good things that the change will bring, as well as all of the things that I’m excited for in the next chapter of my life. It also helps to set goals for myself, even if they are small, so that I always have something to ground me while everything else is changing. It’s the absolute best feeling when you’re able to look back and realize that you completed a goal that you set for yourself.  

One goal that I’ve set for myself this year, for example, is to get at least one creative work that I’ve written published in a literary journal. But even if my work doesn’t get accepted, I can still be proud that I sent my work off and put in the effort to meet my goal. Even if it’s small, and even if it’s just one, I encourage you to set a goal for yourself as this academic year comes to a close. Make it realistic and obtainable, so that you can experience that satisfaction and pride when you complete it in your future.  

Takeaways 

Regardless of how much or how little your life may be changing as this semester approaches its conclusion, I hope that my blog entry prompts you to spend some time reflecting. As you continue to think about all of these things and more, remember to stay present in the current semester too! Keep working hard and finish strong. If you are struggling and need help, remember that the CAST office is here as a resource to you, and our Success Coaches and Peer Mentors want to help you succeed! Being a philosopher at heart, I will leave you with my absolute favorite quote from Socrates: 

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates 

I hope you have a fantastic conclusion to your semester and a fulfilling summer! 

~Hallie 

(Bio: I am a junior out-of-state student studying Creative Writing and Philosophy.)